“How old are you?”
“I only date people in their 30’s.”
“you are in your 20’s. What would you possibly have to contribute?”
Age seems to run deep with people. It affects many of our decisions, and rightly so. However, it seems to be used in the wrong context every time, and boy, it irks me so.
Case 1: People often compare maturity with age. It seems that the general public think the two have a very strong correlation. Age is simply a measure of time, and the measurement of time is simply a man made invention. Maturity, on the other hand, is the knowledge of how to function has part of a society, and your contributions to such a society. This is not dictated by time, but rather the level of comprehension of each individual. Of course, it does take time to build such cognition skills, but the time varies so widely between every individual. Just as many mature adults I’ve seen, so have I witnessed in a child, and vice versa.
Case 2: Cheese and wine is better with age. I agree. Time to move on.
Case 3: For the western society, it seems dating someone within your age is very important. To date someone outside of your age bracket often earns the title of “pedophile” or “cougar”. We somehow made ourselves believe that love, and similar emotions are only appropriate if they are between people of a similar age group. With all evidence pointing otherwise, people still seem to think that age is the only determinant of a person’s emotional capacity. On the other side of the coin, eastern society tends to have a much larger age range suitable for dating. It seems that when you hit the special age of 30, your life being magically stable, your ability to be interesting increases, and you become better looking with absolutely no effort. Another thing. Why do people go around shaming those who date people outside of what you consider an acceptable age group? why can’t people forget the gap in years, and focus on whether you enjoy that person’s company instead?
All I am trying to say, is that before you look at someone with judgemental eyes and ears, give them a piece of your time and open mind. You never know, they just might be brilliant, or someone with useful advice, or even perhaps the person you would want to spend a lifetime with. Age is simply a man-made invention. It should dictate a person’s capacity and potential as much as a vacuum, or toilet paper would.
Until next time,